Have you ever caught yourself apologizing for who you are? Well, maybe the exact words “I apologize for being me” haven’t come out of your mouth, but maybe something that points to that statement has. The point here is that when you hold back and shift your behaviors to make others feel comfortable, you’re signaling to the world that you’re sorry that you’re the way you are… and you shouldn’t be.
Now let’s not get confused. You should absolutely respect other people and their opinions, however they should not drive you to be any different than the way God intended you to be.
When you’re blessed, you don’t have to hide it.
I often see women who have a lot going for themselves hide their accomplishments. They have the beauty, the education, the friends, the influence, the car, the house, the man, the kids and a lot of other things that others may secretly envy. I often see them holding back or shying away from talking about certain things because they’re afraid of how they’ll be perceived by others. It’s almost like they’re afraid to be great because somebody will have something negative to say about it.
This may be you…
Are you afraid to speak up because others will say you think you’re better than everyone because you’ve got a degree? Maybe you’re afraid to mention anything too detailed (good or bad) about your significant other because your friends will think you’re ungrateful (because you have a man and shouldn’t complain or rub it in their faces)? Are you afraid to vent about your well-paying job because others will say you’re a lil’ too bougie? Maybe you’re afraid to talk about how you want more out of your life because people already think you’ve got it made and you don’t
Stop apologizing for who you are and what you have. That’s trash.
A few years back, I made a decision not to allow other people’s responses to me affect my actions and decisions. I realized that for so long I was tiptoeing around to make sure that I wasn’t offensive to others by what I was doing. The problem with that was that I was basically dumbing myself down just so that other people could tolerate being around me. I would have things to say and ideas to bring to the table, but in certain instances I would hold back because of other people’s insecurities. If I’m honest, that’s a horrible way to live because not only are you bound by other people’s thoughts of you. You can’t truly live your own life to the fullest that way.
Ask yourself this question: How many time have you changed your actions and behaviors to make someone else feel more comfortable being around you? How many times have you neglected to celebrate your accomplishments because of the influence of other people?
An apology comes with a feeling of regret. In no way should you have any regret for who you are. If you’re anything like me, you realize that there are areas in your life that you’ve dumbed down to help other people cope with being around you. It’s a sad statement, but there’s so many reasons you should never do that. Today, we’ll touch on a few of those reasons.
You should not apologize for who you are, and here’s why:
1. You are amazing.
Let’s face it. You are lit. Your life is lit. You’re amazing. No need to apologize.
Acknowledging that you’re amazing does not mean you are arrogant or stuck-up. I actually think it’s great for you to recognize how amazing you are. It’s an expression of self-love. When you realize what you’re worth, you’re not willing to settle. Then, your life can become even more amazing.
2. God made you that way, and it should be embraced.
You are a beautiful masterpiece. You are God’s creation. He created you by specific design and gave you a specific purpose. That, darling, should absolutely be embraced.
You are completely unique, and there’s nobody else on the planet that can be you. When you step into the reality and beauty of God’s creation, you’ll realize that the way you were made should be embraced. You, of all people, should be the first to embrace the beauty of God’s creation that stares you in the face in the mirror.
3. Someone else’s discomfort does not justify you to change or dumb yourself down.
The insecurities of other people are not your problem when it comes to you being you. It’s tough to point out that you make people feel uncomfortable and insecure. At the end of the day, their insecurities are an issue they have within themselves, and it’s not your job to fix or adjust to.
4. The world needs you to be YOU.
Stop holding back! Seriously, the world needs you to be you. The world won’t get to fully experience ALL of you if you change for the sake of other people. The real you, the you that God intended you to be, that’s the you we need. That’s the you we’ve all been waiting for.
5. You deserve to be celebrated.
You are bomb. You work hard for the things you have. Yes, you’re blessed. All the more reason as to why you deserve to be celebrated. Learn to celebrate you and your accomplishments instead of apologizing for them. Life is meant to be lived, and celebration is a big part of leading a life worth living. If you get to experience abundant life, why not celebrate it? You absolutely should!