Loving yourself might just be the single most important component to your success. Why? It’s because it affects how you view the world, how you view other people, and what you think about what you can achieve. The more you love yourself, the more you’re able to truly walk in purpose.
As a Christian woman, learning to love myself was an interesting experience because I thought I already loved myself. God began to take me on a journey to self-love, and it all started with Him. As a part of this, I had to deal with the secrets of my past, and that all started with self-love.
Here are the 7 steps that will take you to complete self-love:
1. Know that you are beautiful the way God created you.
One of the main components of accepting yourself is knowing that you are beautiful just the way God created you. God’s creation is beautiful, and you should consider yourself a masterpiece. You are a workmanship crafted by the most-high God. Accept it, and know that you are beautiful. Learn to love yourself the way that God created you. “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14
2. Understand that God’s love never fails.
God showed me that even though I personally felt bad about all the things that had gone wrong in my life, He loved me through it all. He still continued to pursue after me with goodness and love. Even through the worst of situations, God is always and forever will be madly in love with you. If the Creator of the universe is madly in love with you, that’s an indication that you should love yourself, too. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
3. Know that God’s love for you is greater than your mistakes.
When God created you, He knew you would be born into a world where you were bound to make mistakes. Jesus knew this when He died on the cross for you. He knew this when He laid His life down for everything you’ve ever done wrong. He did this in spite of His knowledge of your wrongdoing. He thought you were worth it, and He would do it all again just for you. The fact that Jesus died for us despite our sin shows you that the depth of His love for us runs so deep. When you come into a full understanding of His love, it is then that you can truly love yourself the way that God sees you. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
4. Remember that God forgives you.
Forgiveness from God is as simple as confessing your wrongdoing to Him and forgiving others. When we confess our sins, God forgives. It’s a simple and easy equation. Sometimes the most difficult part can be forgiveness of others. Remember that God cannot forgive you unless you forgive others. Even for the most gut-wrenching experiences, you have to find the strength to forgive. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
5. Know that God forgets your sins.
God is all-knowing and all-powerful. He knows your deepest and darkest secrets. He knows your thoughts. He knows every sin that you have ever committed, but He chooses not to keep record once you have confessed your sins and asked for forgiveness. “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” Isaiah 43:25
6. Forgive yourself.
If God can forgive and forget your sins, so can you. Don’t get so caught up in your wrongdoing that you’re unable to move forward. It is important that you do not dwell on your past nor live in regret. You have to forgive yourself and move on. God calls us to forgive others as He has forgiven us, but do not leave yourself out of the equation. If you do not forgive yourself, you will bring upon feelings of shame, guilt, condemnation and further insecurity. Be free to forgive yourself! Now take a deep breath, and forgive yourself. “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1
7. Understand that you are a new creation in Christ.
You have to let God correct your view of yourself. He has to be able to correct the lens in which you view the world, and ultimately how you view yourself. Once I surrendered my life to Jesus and got to a place of understanding God’s love, I was then able to see that I was accepted by Him and that the “old me” was gone. The old me literally died. That is no longer who I am nor who God intended me to be. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 2 Corinthians 5:17
Know your worth and love everything that you are.
After I was taken through this journey, I was finally able to realize what was missing in my life all along. I misunderstood my worth and value as the woman God created me to be. I had to understand that my worth comes from Christ, and that’s the key factor that helped me to truly love myself.
I now understand my value as a woman. I am a warrior. I am a conqueror. I do not quit. I am a valiant woman of God. I am a deliverer. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am unique. I am a business woman. I am so much more than my past.
I am an Epic Fab Girl, and I am, finally, owning it! It took me long enough to say it and really mean it, so here it goes… I LOVE WHO I AM!
I challenge you to take the journey to self-love. Take the journey to truly and honestly be able to say that you love yourself without a shadow of a doubt.