Single women are often expected to wait around for the perfect guy to walk into their lives and sweep them off their feet. Have you ever been annoyed when hearing something along the lines of, “While I wait on my husband to come…”? Or maybe even, “I’m waiting to meet Mr. Right…”? Well, I have!
As a single Christian woman, I hear things like this all the time. It almost feels like the good, “Christian” thing to do is wait. BUT, I just cannot stand that term in this context! When you hear the word “wait”, the connotation honestly sounds so bad. It sounds almost like you’re inactive or idle, and THAT really bothers me!
Now don’t get me wrong, I am a huge advocate for waiting to have sex until marriage, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about waiting for a man to come into your life!
Seriously, when people say things like “I’m waiting on my man to come…”, it’s almost like while we wait on the right guy to walk into our lives, we’re expected to lay idle. It’s like we’re expected to pause and put everything else on hold and focus on preparing for that one thing.
Single women should stop all the waiting and just GRIND!
Focus so much on yourself that you’re becoming an asset to any relationship that you could ever be a part of. The best part about that is that while you grind it out with your goals, you’re only becoming a better woman for your future husband (Mr. Right)!
I do not believe single women should be anxious or rush to be found by a husband, but I really believe that “waiting” is not the answer, either. Saying that you’re waiting sounds like you’re at a halt or at a point where you’re not being productive because you’re spending time being preoccupied with waiting.
Think of what it feels like to be waiting in the following moments:
- Sitting in the waiting room at the doctor’s office
- Standing in long lines at Walmart or Target
- Waiting on hold for a customer service rep. to get your call
What’s the common denominator here? Waiting in these moments hinders productivity and effectiveness doing anything else. That’s what waiting on the right man should NOT look like!
As a single woman, you should stop all the WAITING and just LIVE your life to the fullest!
Here’s what the “wait” should really look like:
- Spend time getting to know yourself.
- Fall in love with Jesus.
- Create life goals.
- Build an empire.
- Start a business or non-profit.
- Travel the world.
- Explore new hobbies.
- Discover your passions.
- Develop healthy friendships.
- Take classes and workshops.
- Read books. Lots of them.
- Study the bible.
- Join professional networks.
- Give back to the community.
- Go after your dreams.
All of these things require action. When you get so tied up in “waiting” on a man, you lose focus on the fact that this is one of the rare seasons in life that you get to fully focus on YOU! You don’t have to wait for a man to accomplish anything on this list, either!
All while you wait, you can prepare for your future spouse by focusing on you, healing from your past, and setting standards worth keeping.
Don’t get discouraged in waiting. Your “wait” should not feel like you’re in a waiting room. It should feel like your life is full, with or without a man!