One of my favorite parts of being an adult is that I get to choose the people in my life. As a child, your parents set up play dates with their friends’ kids. If you had a birthday party, you had to invite everyone in your class. On Valentine’s Day, everyone gets a card. Of course we don’t choose the families we’re born into and we may not have hired all of the people we work with ourselves, but as adults, we have a say in who we spend our time with. From strangers to soulmates, God places all ... View the Post
Ten Signs of Toxic Relationships
Growing up in a two-parent home, I witnessed my father treat my mother like a queen. He was a family man, that enjoyed helping others around him. He went to work every single day, whether he was ill or in good health, just to provide for his family. Whatever my mother wanted or desired, he made sure she received it. Truly an example of a man. When I started dating, I looked for the same qualities in the men that I decided to entertain. I wanted to make sure that if I gave a guy my attention ... View the Post
Breakups: 5 Signs You Should End Your Courtship
In my last journal, Bible With Bae: Keeping God At The Center of Courtship, I shared some practical ways that my long-distance boyfriend and I kept God in our relationship. At that time, you couldn’t have told me I’d be writing a journal about breaking up, but well, here I am. In a world where ideas about Kingdom courtship and dating are everywhere, most people have this fairytale idea in their mind. They will meet the guy, courtship will begin and it will automatically lead to marriage. ... View the Post
Purity: A Thing to Be, Not Do
I’ve heard it said so many times, “Staying pure is so hard to do.” To that I would simply say, purity isn’t something you do, it’s who you are. However, culture today will feed us responses like “sex is only physical, it doesn’t mean anything.” or “I just need to get it all out of my system.” LIES! Nothing created by God is ever meaningless, and how can you get something out of your system when you’re, in fact, putting it in there? I wonder. Anyway, here are a few lessons that I have personally ... View the Post
Dedication to My Ex [None]
I once heard a song called “Dedication to My Ex” and as someone who constantly reflects on past experiences, it always made me think. Much of my reflection is about romantic relationships, particularly those that didn’t end well. As an Artist myself I’ve often wondered if I would ever create something similar, but I have decided not to. I could write about how unfortunate it is things didn’t work out between us, how I wanted it to work. I might write how I much missed them…or how I didn’t ... View the Post
Breakups: Less Questions, More Acceptance
As the old song goes, “breaking up is hard to do”. Being the person who gets broken up with is even harder. The hardest. One of the most devaluing things I’ve ever experienced is to have someone tell me that after getting to know me, they’ve decided they no longer want to continue a relationship with me. The fundamental question is always something along the lines of “…but don’t you like what you see?” You immediately wonder why apparently you aren’t what they’re looking for. The next ... View the Post