“Evolving Involves Eliminating” – Erykah Badu In the past few years, I have eliminated a lot of relationships in my life. I am proud of myself for doing so. I once feared I could not survive without certain people, but now find myself thriving after letting them go. I used to be a much simpler person desperate for attention. Though fairly easy to come by and sometimes plentiful, attention is fleeting and shallow. Attention alone cannot sustain the deeper connection that healthy ... View the Post
Ten Signs of Toxic Relationships
Growing up in a two-parent home, I witnessed my father treat my mother like a queen. He was a family man, that enjoyed helping others around him. He went to work every single day, whether he was ill or in good health, just to provide for his family. Whatever my mother wanted or desired, he made sure she received it. Truly an example of a man. When I started dating, I looked for the same qualities in the men that I decided to entertain. I wanted to make sure that if I gave a guy my attention ... View the Post
Breakups: 5 Signs You Should End Your Courtship
In my last journal, Bible With Bae: Keeping God At The Center of Courtship, I shared some practical ways that my long-distance boyfriend and I kept God in our relationship. At that time, you couldn’t have told me I’d be writing a journal about breaking up, but well, here I am. In a world where ideas about Kingdom courtship and dating are everywhere, most people have this fairytale idea in their mind. They will meet the guy, courtship will begin and it will automatically lead to marriage. ... View the Post
Breakups: Less Questions, More Acceptance
As the old song goes, “breaking up is hard to do”. Being the person who gets broken up with is even harder. The hardest. One of the most devaluing things I’ve ever experienced is to have someone tell me that after getting to know me, they’ve decided they no longer want to continue a relationship with me. The fundamental question is always something along the lines of “…but don’t you like what you see?” You immediately wonder why apparently you aren’t what they’re looking for. The next ... View the Post
How Online Dating Led to a Real Life Boyfriend
Online dating has a lot of disadvantages. Although I know quite a few people who have found love online, I did not. Eventually, I met someone in “real life”, but I still credit my experience using dating apps to find love myself. After a host of unhealthy relationships and even worse “situationships”, I finally decided to give it a try. I made a profile on a free dating website and received about 300 messages within 3 days. Most of the messages were too ridiculous to bother replying to, and ... View the Post
3 Learned Fairytale Ideas to Stop Believing
Once upon a time, there was a beautiful girl named Cinderella. She lived in a large house with her evil stepmother and two awful stepsisters. Some magical things happened. Then some not so good things happened. Cinderella thought she would never reunite with the prince she randomly fell in love with. Just when we thought all hope was lost, the prince finds her… the shoe fits… and they lived happily ever after just like in all of our favorite fairytales. We all know this story. And as little ... View the Post
