“Evolving Involves Eliminating” – Erykah Badu In the past few years, I have eliminated a lot of relationships in my life. I am proud of myself for doing so. I once feared I could not survive without certain people, but now find myself thriving after letting them go. I used to be a much simpler person desperate for attention. Though fairly easy to come by and sometimes plentiful, attention is fleeting and shallow. Attention alone cannot sustain the deeper connection that healthy ... View the Post
The Four Friends You Need In Your Power Circle
As women, I think we have forgotten the power of having amazing friends in your corner. In a world where independent living, making it on your own and “no new friends” has reigned supreme, we underestimate the true meaning of authentic friendships. I use to be one of those women who said “I don’t have a lot of female friends.”, and it was true. Many of my friends were guys (platonic) and my reasoning for few girlfriends either had to do with girls being too thirsty, too drama filled or too ... View the Post
Choose People Who Choose You
One of my favorite parts of being an adult is that I get to choose the people in my life. As a child, your parents set up play dates with their friends’ kids. If you had a birthday party, you had to invite everyone in your class. On Valentine’s Day, everyone gets a card. Of course we don’t choose the families we’re born into and we may not have hired all of the people we work with ourselves, but as adults, we have a say in who we spend our time with. From strangers to soulmates, God places all ... View the Post
Ten Signs of Toxic Relationships
Growing up in a two-parent home, I witnessed my father treat my mother like a queen. He was a family man, that enjoyed helping others around him. He went to work every single day, whether he was ill or in good health, just to provide for his family. Whatever my mother wanted or desired, he made sure she received it. Truly an example of a man. When I started dating, I looked for the same qualities in the men that I decided to entertain. I wanted to make sure that if I gave a guy my attention ... View the Post
“What’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” Purpose over Popularity
On the topic of popularity, I once heard someone ask “Well what’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” It can be regarded as quite a pathetic question, but it is undeniably a common one. In coming-of-age times, the new millennium encourages you to be yourself and not care what others think. It’s the perfect advice, but just a wee bit unrealistic if we take it literally. We live in this world with over 7 billion other people so if not family or friends, we’re forced to interact with coworkers or even ... View the Post
No Good Thing Will God Withhold
"For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withheld from those who walk uprightly." (Psalms 84:11) I was cleaning up around the house the other day. While cleaning, I just started thinking about God and His faithfulness that He has towards me and His people in general. I thought of how even on my best day, He has been more loyal to me than I have been to myself. No matter how much I say I love myself, His love always trumps that. Some time ... View the Post