“Evolving Involves Eliminating” – Erykah Badu In the past few years, I have eliminated a lot of relationships in my life. I am proud of myself for doing so. I once feared I could not survive without certain people, but now find myself thriving after letting them go. I used to be a much simpler person desperate for attention. Though fairly easy to come by and sometimes plentiful, attention is fleeting and shallow. Attention alone cannot sustain the deeper connection that healthy ... View the Post
Choose People Who Choose You
One of my favorite parts of being an adult is that I get to choose the people in my life. As a child, your parents set up play dates with their friends’ kids. If you had a birthday party, you had to invite everyone in your class. On Valentine’s Day, everyone gets a card. Of course we don’t choose the families we’re born into and we may not have hired all of the people we work with ourselves, but as adults, we have a say in who we spend our time with. From strangers to soulmates, God places all ... View the Post
“What’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” Purpose over Popularity
On the topic of popularity, I once heard someone ask “Well what’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” It can be regarded as quite a pathetic question, but it is undeniably a common one. In coming-of-age times, the new millennium encourages you to be yourself and not care what others think. It’s the perfect advice, but just a wee bit unrealistic if we take it literally. We live in this world with over 7 billion other people so if not family or friends, we’re forced to interact with coworkers or even ... View the Post
Breakups: Less Questions, More Acceptance
As the old song goes, “breaking up is hard to do”. Being the person who gets broken up with is even harder. The hardest. One of the most devaluing things I’ve ever experienced is to have someone tell me that after getting to know me, they’ve decided they no longer want to continue a relationship with me. The fundamental question is always something along the lines of “…but don’t you like what you see?” You immediately wonder why apparently you aren’t what they’re looking for. The next ... View the Post
No Good Thing Will God Withhold
"For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withheld from those who walk uprightly." (Psalms 84:11) I was cleaning up around the house the other day. While cleaning, I just started thinking about God and His faithfulness that He has towards me and His people in general. I thought of how even on my best day, He has been more loyal to me than I have been to myself. No matter how much I say I love myself, His love always trumps that. Some time ... View the Post
How Online Dating Led to a Real Life Boyfriend
Online dating has a lot of disadvantages. Although I know quite a few people who have found love online, I did not. Eventually, I met someone in “real life”, but I still credit my experience using dating apps to find love myself. After a host of unhealthy relationships and even worse “situationships”, I finally decided to give it a try. I made a profile on a free dating website and received about 300 messages within 3 days. Most of the messages were too ridiculous to bother replying to, and ... View the Post
