As a woman, there’s so much pressure to pull it all together and keep the show going. Be cute. Stay in shape. Get your education. Make that money. Serve the community. Spend time with (and get along with) family. Oh, and be sane. How can you possibly manage walking in purpose and making a difference in this world when you don’t even “have it all together”, yet?
Many times in life I have gotten to a point where I question when I’m ever going to get it all together. That perfect moment when everything in life aligns in perfect harmony. You know, when you feel like you are completely owning it with everything you’re doing. That moment when you’re unbothered by any slip-ups or mishaps along the way.
The funny thing is… the likeliness of completely “having it all together in perfect harmony” is pretty low.
You see, this year I turned 25 years old, and as I hit a quarter of a century, I reflected on my past and my evolution over time. In my younger days, I just knew I would “have it all together” by the time I hit 25. That wasn’t the case. You would think that after having gotten a Mechanical Engineering degree, receiving an MBA, launching a few businesses, and after starting a successful career in Corporate America that I would probably have it all together. Well, the truth is, I don’t. I am 100% okay with that.
I’ve learned that life is ever-evolving and you should continuously be evolving with it.
If at any point in life I get to a juncture where I “have it all together”, then honestly, I’m probably doing something wrong. Life should always be presenting me with new challenges, new adventures, and new experiences. This all serves in shaping me into a better version of me.
No, I’m not perfect. No, I’m not where I want to be, yet, but I hope you understand that by the time I get there, I’ll have a whole new set of goals, aspirations, and ideas specific to that time in my life.
You do not have to have it all together to start pursuing your purpose. It’s a process. Be okay with that.
I do not have it all together, and I am perfectly cool with that. You should be okay with that, too. Put your best food forward, and start taking strides towards pursuing your purpose, regardless of where you feel you’re at in your life. There’s no need to hold yourself to an unrealistic standard. If you wait around to “have it all together”, you’ll miss out on so much opportunity in the mean time.
Don’t forget that making progress grows you. Making progress will help you get a little closer to “having it all together” if that’s your goal.
Until next time… Go be great.
Candace Armour
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