In my last journal, Bible With Bae: Keeping God At The Center of Courtship, I shared some practical ways that my long-distance boyfriend and I kept God in our relationship. At that time, you couldn’t have told me I’d be writing a journal about breaking up, but well, here I am. In a world where ideas about Kingdom courtship and dating are everywhere, most people have this fairytale idea in their mind. They will meet the guy, courtship will begin and it will automatically lead to marriage. ... View the Post
“What’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” Purpose over Popularity
On the topic of popularity, I once heard someone ask “Well what’s wrong with wanting to be liked?” It can be regarded as quite a pathetic question, but it is undeniably a common one. In coming-of-age times, the new millennium encourages you to be yourself and not care what others think. It’s the perfect advice, but just a wee bit unrealistic if we take it literally. We live in this world with over 7 billion other people so if not family or friends, we’re forced to interact with coworkers or even ... View the Post
Black Women and Mental Illness
When you hear the word "Black Woman" what do you think of? Maybe strong, magical, smart, nurturer, etc. Growing up in a black family, you never really spoke about your business. The quote I often heard was "What happens in this house stays in this house!" That quote stayed with me even into my adulthood. Now, I understand that my aunts and grandmothers really meant well when they said those words. They didn't want people sticking their noses in something they had no business being in. Or ... View the Post
My Sanity-Saving Thought to Give Myself Grace
The thing about giving grace is that something bad has to happen for you to even consider it. I’m not even going to lie to you. I have been a total mess lately. Just when I thought I was getting myself together, I totally dropped the ball on a lot of things… housework, exercising, eating right, staying on a budget... Like I said, I am a mess. I have no idea how I am going to recover. Often times, I beat myself up about things, saying “This house is a mess,” or “Why do I keep forgetting to ... View the Post
Stay True to Your Beauty Beyond the Makeup
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; My soul knows it very well. - PSALMS 139:14 Hey Girl! You, yes YOU! Yes, I am talking to you, the one reading this. You are beautiful! No matter your race, color or creed. Plus you, especially you, your SKIN is beautiful. Sometimes as women we can get so caught up in the way we look after we have applied layers of makeup. We think that “she” is the pretty one. She is the one that gets the attention, the one ... View the Post
My Friend’s Giant: Part 2
In Part I, I told you about my best friend whom I love dearly. She has grown into such an incredible woman. She’s truly someone that I have come to admire, yet she has a weakness in her soul that keeps bringing her down. I discovered this weakness is actually a giant that bullies her around in her mind causing her to become oblivious to just how far she has come and all that God has given to her as a reward. The name of her giant is comparison. I hate watching my friend struggle so ... View the Post